Focusing On The Things That Keep Us Watching

About Bella Mafia: The Beauty of GH

I’ve learned a couple of things from my 19 years as an educator: 1.) Positive reinforcement works, and 2.) Negativity begets negativity.

As a longtime GH viewer, I’ve decided to apply both theories to my GH Blog. I’ve tired, as many of you have, of the negativity surrounding my favorite soap simply because a storyline didn’t go a certain way or because a certain couple isn’t a pairing. I get a headache when I see fans threatening to stop watching, or even worse, tweeting an actor to tell him they hope the show tanks. (In effect telling them they hope their means of supporting their families are taken away.) These behaviors shock me more than the comings and goings section of the latest spoilers!

Back in the day before all these avenues of communication between the viewer and actors/TPTB were available to us, fans had to tune in day in and day out to see what would happen. There were no spoilers or messageboards, no tweets from stars willing to give up family time to connect with their fans, and you know what was different?

Ratings. Yes, ratings.

People were committed to this genre of entertainment and appreciated it for what it was…fiction, playing out on our screens with, in GH’s case, really beautiful people.

These days, we hear about a leaked storyline and we take issue with the moral implications. Some get upset that a mobster they’ve loved and watched for 15 years actually orders a hit! Oh, the horror! We threaten the network execs with “blackouts” or commitments to stop watching. Some go as far as to send petitions to the sponsors. Let me just tell you where this gets us as soap fans…missing our flawed, but favorite soaps when they are cancelled.

I am thankful for the 60-minute daily escape from the real world that GH provides me. The characters I love and love to hate, do things, both bad and good, that I’d never do, and sometimes the crises they face are a bit far-fetched, but if I wanted everyday believeable crises, I’d watch CNN instead. I like an occasional hostage crisis, and I love believing that the hottest guy I’ve seen can play hero every time. And hey – if I want to show my appreciation to the police men, I give to the annual PBA Christmas toy drive, I don’t flip out because Port Charles cops are portrayed in a negative light!

Bella Mafia:The Beauty of GH will serve as a negativity-free zone for General Hospital Fans! Here, we will only discuss the beautiful things about our beloved “story.” Here, we’ll encourage fans to rave about what we are loving. Hopefully, positive reinforcement will prove itself true even with the writing.

I know that there are scenes EVERY DAY that we love and want to see more of. I know there are STORYLINES that make us rush home in time to watch as it unfolds, and make us BELIEVE in the ability of soaps to entertain and distract us from the realities of life.

This is the place for those things of beauty…

What will your contribution to Keeping General Hospital Alive and Well be?

48 responses

  1. MiszNelique

    What you’re doinq it truly amazinq 🙂
    Keep up the AWSOME work .

    December 10, 2009 at 10:30 am

  2. stephanie

    You are a truly gifted writer. I love that you see, feel and write what is sometimes the actual thoughts in my head. I appreciate the Jasam support and love and I wish you blessings for you and your family in the New Year.

    December 31, 2009 at 4:42 pm

  3. sarah stjohn

    your site is a joy to read………..I send you many good thoughts, wishes, and also thanks for all you bring to us readers……….Blessings!!

    February 9, 2010 at 2:31 pm

  4. Bella,

    I am a big GH fan and am always searching for gossip and spoilers. I came across your sight by searching for “up and over” Patrick and whatever her name is. I’m watching the reruns. Anyway, this is the best GH site on the net and I am passing it on to my friends. Thanks so much!


    March 7, 2010 at 3:37 pm

  5. PiterJankovich

    My name is Piter Jankovich. oOnly want to tell, that your blog is really cool
    And want to ask you: is this blog your hobby?
    P.S. Sorry for my bad english

    March 29, 2010 at 11:35 am

  6. Another informative post. This is a very nice blog that I will definitively come back to several more times this year!

    May 10, 2010 at 4:49 pm

  7. JaSamFan4Eva

    Hi Angelique!

    I love your posts! A friend used to share with me daily and now I have you bookmarked myself :)…. I was wondering if you could please email me?

    June 29, 2010 at 5:39 pm

    • But of course! Look for it! 😉

      June 29, 2010 at 9:06 pm

  8. JasamFan

    Angelique.. I cna’t find your email.. can you email me please.

    Thanks sweetie!

    September 17, 2010 at 1:00 am

  9. Angie

    Hi Angelique, has been reading your posts for months now. Love reading your insights and your kindly and humor shines brightly through your writing. Thanks for taking the time to share.

    September 20, 2010 at 9:38 pm

  10. Hi, nice to meet you !

    September 23, 2010 at 7:51 am

  11. beldelicious


    My heart goes out to your friend’s family. How do you cope with losing a child after you loved and cherished them. For a parent and as a mother, I believe it’s the worst pain someone have to live through.

    I always to back to one of my mother’s best quote. God never gives anything you can’t handle. Because HE knows YOU.

    I will put them in my prayers. May GOD bless them.

    P.S. Angelique, You know how I feel about this blog and You. Hopefully we’ll have a great GH week.

    November 8, 2010 at 5:16 pm

  12. Thank You for creating your Blog

    November 17, 2010 at 11:55 am

  13. Nicole

    your site is great. I`ve been reading your posts a long time. I live in germany and watch GH with youtube and became a fan. Sometimes i can watch the vids.

    Thank you

    November 28, 2010 at 8:55 am

  14. Sue

    You’re rockin’ the posts the last few days. I so enjoy reading your blog! Keep it up!

    December 3, 2010 at 6:10 pm

  15. I just sent this post to a bunch of my friends as I agree with most of what you’re saying here and the way you’ve presented it is awesome.

    January 12, 2011 at 10:33 am

  16. You certainly deserve a round of applause for your post and more specifically, your blog in general. Very high quality material.

    February 24, 2011 at 1:04 am

  17. I just sent this post to a bunch of my friends as I agree with most of what you’re saying here and the way you’ve presented it is awesome.

    February 26, 2011 at 2:49 pm

  18. Zainab

    this is really good. keep it up

    March 1, 2011 at 8:44 pm

  19. alwaysaromantic

    You never cease to amaze me! This was so heart felt!At work today I told a co-worker about this site. The only way to describe it was thought provoking. You make us think and feel in such a good way. All the time WE (Jasam fans)have been on the “brink” this site and your GREAT reflections helped us to “HOLD ON”! Thank you so much Angelique. Every reference on todays blog was so right on point.To extend a hand to GH and ALL who make GH was so very Gracious and deserving.Especially after the last few weeks maybe even longer as a GH fan you could “feel” the s/l’s changing for the better. I enjoy watching all the characters of GH even those who
    make me shake my head even yell at the screen sometimes! But my GH Soap Loving Heart belongs to Samantha and Jason ever since 2003! Since Jason saw Sam on that stretcher I have felt like a star struck kid again and for me thats all good! Kelly and Steve have “hit it out of the park again”! And the joy at watching them I have to extend that to the GH staff.
    I hope you are taking care of yourself and I Thank You for still having the strength to enlighten us all!

    March 2, 2011 at 8:05 pm

  20. Connie Hernandez

    Just wanted to say good luck on your surgery today, Will say a prayer for your speedy recovery. I have been a regular reader of your blog and I must say I admire your intelligence and wit . You somehow know how to put in to words what I am actually feeling inside ! Amazing. Hope you will continue to inspire us and send positive vibes to everyone. I wish I could see you and meet you and be a friend. I need positive thinkers in my life. I suffer from fibromyalgia so I know about pains and frustrations.
    My name is Connie , einnoc115 on twitter.

    July 13, 2011 at 10:50 am

    • Hi, Connie!
      Thanks…that kind of support means the world to me!
      I hope to continue to write about our favorite soap and couple for a really long time!
      I’ve met some amazing friends on here, which I have yet to meet in person, but I truly consider them among
      my dearest, dearest friends, so even if we don’t meet face to face for a while, I’d love to be your friend!
      I’m sorry to hear about your fibromyalgia…I’ll keep you in my thoughts and prayers!
      I haven’t been able to log on to Twitter in a while…but I’m IfNotMeThenSam on Twitter.
      I really hope to see you on there soon!

      July 14, 2011 at 9:55 pm

  21. Connie Hernandez

    Thanks for your reply. Really much appreciated. Hope you are doing well.
    Looking forward to hear from you again ..
    Take care.

    July 14, 2011 at 10:09 pm

  22. Just saying thanks will not just be adequate, for the great lucidity in your writing.

    July 19, 2011 at 4:05 am

  23. Connie Hernandez

    Thanks for another excellent read…
    Hope all is well with you..
    Stay COOL during this heat wave you have there….

    July 20, 2011 at 8:29 am

    • Thanks, Connie!
      It’s still hot as…JaSam, and it’s supposed to feel like 110 tomorrow and Friday!


      July 20, 2011 at 10:54 pm

      • Connie Hernandez

        I’m going to the FCW starting tomorrow at NANCY’S EVENT with the DAVIS girls. I know I’m going to have so much fun . How I wish you could be there to enjoy with me/us fans. It would be a pleasure meeting you. I admire what you do and how you do it..
        Good luck…Good health …God Bless You.
        Keep in touch!
        Jasam HUGS,

        July 20, 2011 at 11:07 pm

      • have fun, Connie!
        Thanks for being so sweet!

        July 21, 2011 at 11:24 pm

  24. I loooooooooooove your blog! How you break everything down and dissect it is amazing and that you put the holier than thou Liz in her place is awesome!!!! Thank you!!!

    July 28, 2011 at 11:30 am

  25. Fylicia'Marie

    Didn’t know how else to get this to you, but your fav vidder has done it again – Sunday drive most worthy:

    August 13, 2011 at 1:18 pm

    • LOL! She is rather awesome isn’t she?
      It will be there…
      Thanks for the heads up!

      August 14, 2011 at 12:45 am

  26. Angelique, did not know where to post this. I watched the first commercial break last week of (forgive me) the Chew thing. I counted 12 sponsors in that alone. Now, please give me a bit of help….what do we do with this now? I know I can write P&G, Clorox,and the co’s I know….but everybody needs to write, and boycott that mess……….would love your guidelines….you are the best…………Praying for your health and well being always….

    October 9, 2011 at 2:08 pm

  27. Woh I like your posts , saved to favorites ! .

    October 24, 2011 at 3:54 pm

  28. I am extremely impressed with your writing skills as well as with the layout on your weblog. Is this a paid theme or did you modify it yourself? Anyway keep up the nice quality writing, it is rare to see a nice blog like this one nowadays..

    October 25, 2011 at 6:05 am

  29. Fylicia'Marie

    Today is Thursday, November 17th. I just watched youtube clip of JaSam for today and all I could think of was what on earth are my JaSammers going through right now. Don’t fret, Angelique will find a way to give us a much needed spark of hope. Hard s/l, but we’ll get thru this together….one day at a time. Stellar performances from Stelly, heartbreaking, but Stellar.

    November 17, 2011 at 7:05 pm

    • Fylicia'Marie

      on another note, GO MONICA!!! I have always liked her…..good people. We may not need be rattled by teasing writers any longer, Monica will handle any stray whoremones 😉

      November 17, 2011 at 7:19 pm

  30. Dawn

    I enjoy your daily blog because you flesh out, in detail, the little moments that melt our hearts and keep us watching. Sometimes you even see things that I did not and bring them to your readers attention. I love the positive vibe here and I hope your are able to continue for years to come. As a side note, I grew up with Robin Scorpio so I am an invested fan of GH, and I think that Steve and Kelly have had the most wonderfully beautiful, heartwrenching scenes this fall–since the proposal–that I have every watched. The show just gets better and better so I hope viewers keep tuning in.

    Happy Holidays!

    December 10, 2011 at 9:05 am

  31. Fluer

    While Ive only been to your blog two times I must say you are a wondeful writer, which gives me hope for GH’s Jasam. May b not the show lol but atleast my couple since this new arc ppl have been coming out of the wood work to bash them old liason lovers an non anycouples lovers who’ve seemed to blame Jasam for the shows fail ratings. I also wanted to ask could you help or direct me to the this site so I can start my own blog if y ou be so kind thnks wishes from a southern bell.

    December 13, 2011 at 12:18 pm

    • Thanks for the kind words.
      Ignore the haters…the highest ratings we’ve gotten in the past few months were JaSam’s wedding, and their cabin honeymoon.
      Their couple is as exciting as watching ice melt, so please.
      Go to and follow the instructions for starting a blog. They make it super easy here!
      best of luck!

      December 14, 2011 at 12:46 am

  32. I genuinely enjoy reading on this site, it has got excellent posts .

    January 9, 2012 at 5:11 am

  33. I am extremely impressed with your writing skills as well as with the layout on your blog. Is this a paid theme or did you modify it yourself? Anyway keep up the nice quality writing, it is rare to see a great blog like this one nowadays..

    January 12, 2012 at 5:06 pm

  34. Leslie Cann

    You are a extremely talented writer. I wish you were writing for Jasam. Your words give me hope that Jasam will survive and be stronger than ever. Thank You so much.

    April 28, 2012 at 12:25 pm

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    April 28, 2012 at 4:30 pm

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    July 30, 2012 at 4:17 pm

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    September 5, 2012 at 2:05 am

  38. Wow that was unusual. I just wrote an extremely long comment but after I clicked submit my comment didn’t show up. Grrrr… well I’m not writing all that over again. Anyhow, just wanted to say wonderful blog!

    September 11, 2012 at 4:07 pm

  39. Carolynn

    I just wanted to thank you for such a wonderful site , I absolutely love reading your blog , it has gotten me through some dark JaSam days this past year ..Your insight is greatly appreciated.

    December 17, 2012 at 12:47 am

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