NO ONE TO HAVE OR TO HOLD
I honestly didn’t see that ending coming today…for some reason, I thought that would be our Friday cliffhanger.
However, it wasn’t only the actual explosion that got my attention, because there was plenty for us to talk about.
Sonny and Brenda’s wedding left people in a heightened state. The “state of” varied from person to person, but certainly, everyone present left a little differently than how they arrived.
The one thing I believe was the common thread of every wedding guest was the kind of personal reflection it inspired, and will inspire.
Some will be thankful for the loved ones they are lucky enough “To Have And To Hold”, but others sadly, will realize they aren’t so fortunate.
Dante knew the moment he opened his mouth to tell the truth about his and Brenda’s secret that Lulu was going to be shocked, but more than that, Lulu was going to be incredibly angry and hurt about yet another secret Dante kept for Brenda. What I don’t think he knew at the time was that it would be physically painful for him to try and make amends with the woman he loves. Lulu packs quite a punch, and probably left Dante with something he’ll remember long after the stinging wears off, but even that punch may not have been enough to be counted as amends as far as Lulu is concerned. I can’t really blame her. So although these two lovebirds started the night with stars in their eyes, they ended it with no one to have or to hold.
Patrick may have started the night with some hope…after all it’s not every evening that we see Robin overcome with joy, as she was at the wedding of two old friends. It also helped that they had shared memories over their own special day, and I bet Patrick’s hope went soaring when Robin actually asked him to dance. However, it wasn’t long before his busybody wife was back to flitting around all over the room taking charge of everything that needed to be done, and soon, Patrick was left to dance with everyone from Carly to…Molly! Yeah, weddings can be great, but sometimes they can also be glaring reminders of broken promises. When you’re the one who broke those promises, I imagine it hurts to realize you have no one to blame but yourself for having no one to have or to hold.
I imagine it wasn’t very easy for Jax to sit alone and watch his wife be the dancing queen of the evening with everyone but him. I know that Jax loves Carly, and I do believe he loves her kids. However, Jax didn’t really have a chance, did he? While he was always expected to put Carly above all and everyone else, and to never keep a secret or tell a lie, he could never expect the same from Carly. Let’s be fair. If Jax had to exist in this marriage with stricter requirements than Catholic school, than he should at least be able to expect the same from Carly. It wasn’t going to happen. So while it may not be all of Jax’s fault, I’m sure it didn’t lessen the pain of coming to terms with the fact that he’s left with no one to have or to hold…yet again.
It’s great when Luke and Tracy remind us that they are more than just comic relief. They are husband and wife – newlyweds, really! And yet, they are living separate and lonely lives just weeks after their own wedding day. While they bicker and bitch more than any couple I know of, they do love each other, and it’s nice to hear that they also miss each other. As much as Luke tries to act like the unaffected louse, it was probably hard to hear that his Spanky Bun’s once “passionately burning embers are now ashes.” I wonder if Luke would still choose jewels over his prized bride; or if he would still gamble knowing he’d end up with no one and no jewels to have or to hold.
Michael is probably the luckiest guy of the night. Not only was he surprised by the girl of his dreams at the wedding reception, but they were smart enough to end the evening early and avoid the “fireworks”. I really loved that Abby gave credit to the fact that Sam brought them together…our Sam rarely gets credit for any of the wonderful ways she has helped Michael over the course of his lifetime. All these two needed was a little time alone. Had Michael and Abby stayed, our overeager resident romance specialist, Molly, may have inadvertently scared Abby off and left Michael with no one to have or to hold!
Kristina had one hell of a night. Not only has she made huge strides in her relationship with her dad just in time for the happiest night of his life, but seeing Kristina free of all that anger and resentment changes her completely. I do love seeing her smile so much more than scowl, and after the stormy seas she’s had to navigate over the past couple of years, it’s nice to see her kind of sailing along, no matter how temporary. I really, enjoyed her scenes with her dad, especially after she caught the bouquet. You could completely tell that Maurice Bernard’s personal experience with being a dad to daughters gave him the perfect well to draw from. From his reaction to Kristina catching the bouquet, to the things he said, to the way he held her each time was just Daddy’s Girl stuff that you can’t fake that well. I also loved Kristina’s approach to Ethan. She spent the night enjoying the moment, but for Kristina, the possibility of a future with her older crush was never far. When Kristina told Ethan she would marry him someday, I smiled like a fool, even when he laughed. Ethan’s laughter wasn’t mean or cruel, it was just a bit incredulous. It reminded me of the fact that I grew up saying the same thing about my best friend’s older brother. Each time he’d see me at their house (which was very often, since I was head over heels in love with him) he’d smile at me or ruffle my hair. He never knew that every time his sister and I snuck into his room to listen to his “boombox”, I inhaled his scent from his pillow. And he never would have thought that each time I spent a few minutes in his “presence”, I was imagining our future together, or considering how many daughters we’d have before having a son. He only saw a little girl, kinda like Ethan does. Had I told my older crush any of those things back then, he would have laughed – harder than Ethan. I know that because I’ve asked him. He’s now my husband, and we’ve had an awesome 21 years together! (By the way, we had one daughter before having a son, then another daughter followed) So, when I heard Kristina’s resolute declaration, I smiled. More importantly, I believed her. I hope the writers never forget she said that. As long as she gets her wish in the end, it won’t matter that she’ll have to go some time with no one to have or to hold. It will have been worth it to her. Trust me.
Sonny and Brenda knew there was a huge chance that their enemies could turn the evening of their dreams into one huge nightmare. They didn’t really care. They also knew that people who care about them were working all evening to keep them safe. Judging from their smiles, and the fact that they didn’t even seem to care about Jason’s or Sam’s absence, I would say that again, they didn’t care. Sonny and Brenda had the reception they’ve each dreamed of for decades. Everything was well planned, and well done. Their friends were there. Their now shared family was there. Their respective exes were there and were forced to watch them finally become husband and wife, and there was nothing they could say or do to stop it. *Sigh* I guess that’s all that matters to Sonny and Brenda. As long as they’re happy, right? Wrong. That denial and obliviousness cost them dearly. And from all appearances, the happily married couple who just vowed to have and to hold each other ‘til death they did part, just had all of the warnings literally blow up in their faces. Now both have been left with no one to have or to hold.
So many of us love Jason Morgan. We love that he’s strong and brave on the outside, sweet, mushy, and even kinky on the inside. We love that a character who was so one-dimensional for so long became this hot-blooded man who allowed our favorite firecracker brunette to peel back all of these layers we didn’t even know he had.
We love him when he saves the day, and we love him when he needs saving, because it usually means that our Fair Samantha has stepped in and rescued him, whether it’s from a gun-toting bad guy, or those fears about himself he keeps so well hidden from everyone else.
Yes, we all love Jason…except for the one thing that makes us all want to smack him upside the head.
You know what I’m talking about, don’t you? When Jason takes that hero thing he does so well to the Superhero level? When he doesn’t listen to reason…or to Sam, and ends up in more trouble because of it? We’ve seen it before. Usually, the biggest regrets he’s had to face over those occasions had to do with personal consequences, like when he gets hurt.
Other times, however, the consequences are more serious, and more devastating to Jason than his personal safety. Those are the times when his decision-making has led to a consequence for Sam, the woman he loves. Such as when Manny took Sam from the lakehouse after she begged to go back home to Jason, or when Franco took her from the hot tub, where Jason had left her waiting too long. In each of those situations, Jason nearly lost his mind from fear for her life, but he nearly went nuts with regret. Each time, Jason had to deal with the fact that his decisions put Sam in harm’s way. It’s one thing to know that Sam has accepted the looming danger of his life and lifestyle, but it’s another thing to know it was something HE did that led to Sam being put at risk.
I won’t give away any spoilers or rumors, because I know some readers still like the element of surprise, but I think we know enough already to know that Sam’s life is at grave risk. Worse is that Jason hasn’t even realized yet that he has reason for concern. Now, before we all get too angry with Jason over that, let’s understand one thing. Jason thinks The Balkan is after Brenda for revenge, and that now that his cover as Theo has been blown, Jason cannot imagine that The Balkan would be willing to waste any more time with added complications. In Jason’s mind, going after anyone other than Brenda at this point is a complication The Balkan cannot afford right now. He knows time is ticking away for Theo…Jason just doesn’t realize it may also be ticking away for the Love of His Life. I genuinely believe it hasn’t crossed his mind. I don’t think for a minute that Jason is choosing Carly over Sam. I just think he forgets that he isn’t really a Superhero.
As far as Jason knows, Sam is at the wedding, where her sisters are bridesmaids, doing what he asked: keeping her eyes on things.
It’s just too bad that Sam doesn’t have eyes in the back of her head. Or that The Balkan is more creative than Jason imagines. Sam’s life is in imminent danger. More danger than she’s been in since…their last crisis.
The problem here is that she probably would not be in this kind of situation if Jason hadn’t insisted on leaving her behind and sending her back to the wedding alone. Trust me when I tell you that Jason will rethink that decision to death.
Poor Jason. He is about to be brutally reminded that sometimes he fails the ones he loves the most, and when you love someone as much as Jason loves Sam, that’s often more than you can live with. In an instant, Jason will go from thinking he failed at outwitting the enemy, to realizing that his decisions may very well have left him without Sam to have and to hold.
That’s a reaction I don’t want to miss!
To that end, I’ll need your prayers and good thoughts today. I’m having what I have termed “Surgical Procedure #16” early this morning. Due to my affinity for picking up any infection lurking in a hospital, the plan is to have the surgery at a surgery center, have me recover a while in a sterile area, and then to send me home to rest there, as long as there are no complications.
My biggest hope is that my surgery, and subsequent time in the recovery room, will be uneventful, and that I’ll be back home where I will rest according to dr.’s orders (a couple of my nurses read the blog) by GH time!
That isn’t too much to ask, is it?
I love you all, and thank you ahead of time for your prayers and positive thoughts!
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2010: http://bit.ly/9SSMOL Hmmm. Jason and Sam…parenting everyone else’s children once more!
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